Upon reading the book "On Becoming Babywise" you see that author Gary Ezzo comes across as being a very reasonable voice in the often contradictory recommendations of parenting. Upon closer examination, however, we see that sometimes he applies different meanings to words or phrases than that which is generally accepted, and this can lead to some confusion when discussing the book.
For example, he claims the Parent-Directed-Feeding program is flexible, but his idea of flexibilty is much too rigid to meet the recommendations of Pediatricians and Lactation Constultants.
Therefore, I have arranged The Ezzospeak Dictionary to help you understand Ezzo's book.
These terms and examples come from the 1998 version.
Term
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Usual meaning
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Babywise Usage
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Block
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To hinder or obstruct
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To soothe as in “Is it a good idea to
block crying?” p.139
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Guidance
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Direction, leadership
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Ignore (45
minutes of crying is called “parental guidance” on pg 123)
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Training
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Educate, teach
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Ignore ("training" a child to sleep by leaving him to cry himself to sleep)
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Help
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Assist, aid
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Ignore (Same as above)
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Prop
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Something to support an object in position
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Nursing or rocking a baby to sleep,
sleeping with baby. (P.56)
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Flexible
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Bendable, adaptable, willing to yield
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Inconsistency (pg 109)
A temporary alteration. (P.110)
A “broken” routine (pg 181)
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Heightened gratification
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A feeling of satisfaction or pleasure. ward for parenting
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A "pitfall" of child-centered parenting
(p.26)
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Attachment Parenting
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Sensitive and emotionally available parenting which helps build strong emotional bonds and fosters a healthy socio-emotional development in the childd
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Emotional bondage (p 97)
A" new name for the outdated birth trauma theory developed by a neoprimitivistic school of thought in the 1940’s."
(Note: birth WAS traumatic for babies in the 1940's due to the standardized use of drugs and forceps for every birth!)
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Lactation counselors
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Certified healthcare
providers recognized as experts in human lactation and breastfeeding support.
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An “industry” that is “heavily biased against
any type of routine,” lacking “a working understanding of routine breast-feeding
dynamics.” (p.100)
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Attached child
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Baby/child who has a close emotional bond with
caregiver.
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“Relational security” based on "proximity,
not independence" (p.140)
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Parental guidance
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Teaching, mentoring, overseeing
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Routine feedings (p. 21)
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Baby wise
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A deep understanding of babies and their needs.
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An Infant Management System (p.17)
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Demand feeding
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Nursing when baby indicates hunger
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Erratic and emotive response to crying
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Natural
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That which occurs in Nature or without
interference
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That which occurs as a result of
disciplined effort – as in “trained to sleep the natural way” (subtitle)
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Term
|
Usual meaning
|
Babywise Usage
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Schedule
|
a series of things to be done or events to occur at or during a particular time or period; a timetable
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Routine
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Routine
|
typical or everyday activity;
regular, unvarying, habitual,
unimaginative, customary procedure
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Following 6 guidelines (page 111),
calculated time between feedings;
Timetable (as on page118)
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Connectedness
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United, joined, or linked; linked
coherently
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Mother cooperates with baby’s needs
and baby learns to cooperate with
mother’s guidance. (p.38)
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Advantage
|
a benefit or gain; eg. breastfed children
have better overall health
than formula fed children…
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Disadvantage
as
in “formula fed babies have “less of an advantage”
[Over what? Unfed babies?]
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Metabolic Chaos
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A result of chronic illness or alcoholism
which has ultimately thrown the body chemistry out of balance.
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A condition in which all health babies are born that must be remedied by parents.
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