tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37507209984389588332024-03-13T09:16:04.535-04:00Unbecoming Baby LiesIt is very unbecoming behavior to tell lies. Lies that harm babies are not only unbecoming, but unacceptable.
This blogger wishes to expose lies that hurt babies. stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-31072977785407157022020-05-26T16:49:00.019-04:002020-06-18T21:40:23.146-04:00Babies and Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs
According to Wikipedia, Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist who was best known for creating Maslow's hierarchy of needs, a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, culminating in self-actualization.
Clearly, our most basic needs, those at the bottom of the pyramid must be met to our satisfaction beforestubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-39532568095244930012015-05-18T21:29:00.001-04:002023-08-26T07:15:55.860-04:00If Parents Use Common Sense....
Fans of Babywise don't like hearing from the critics that Ezzo's "Infant Management System" is not good for babies. The claim is that as long as you use common sense, everything will be fine.
The problem is that parenting books are usually read by first-time parents seeking wisdom from those with more experience.
Ezzo's book, On Becoming Babywise promises its readers thatstubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-53100064996816261212015-01-28T00:21:00.004-05:002021-06-14T17:17:34.053-04:00Can't we be friends? A Parents' Dilemma Can't We Be Friends? At a Christian Bible Study Group the women were discussing the book of Titus, where Paul speaks about the different roles of those within the church. Our group was considering our roles as wives and mothers, based upon these verses:Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is goodstubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-70172012272114344772014-11-26T17:11:00.003-05:002018-06-19T08:39:22.549-04:00To Train Up A ChildThe book called "To Train Up a Child" by Mike and Debi Pearl is very popular among Christians. I mention it here because many who use the Ezzo's programs also follow the Pearl's philosophy of parenting.
The Pearls' idea of child training involves pro-actively teaching the child immediate unquestioning obedience through early training sessions.
The introduction of the stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-11762656929511724672014-10-05T21:32:00.000-04:002019-09-06T20:53:46.057-04:00How I became obsessed about Babywise. I was a La Leche League Leader for many years. I considered becoming a Certified Lactation Consultant, and looking into it one day, I discovered a website where Lactation Counselors shared their professional information and experience.
One Lactation Consultant was sharing her exasperation in working with a new mom whose baby was not gaining weight sufficiently. The LC had stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-15526250564691480892013-09-07T13:16:00.001-04:002015-01-22T16:18:08.255-05:00Good News!
Brand new copies of Babywise were offered for fifty cents at Chapters.
I guess nobody wants the nasty book any more!stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-66122661269946141702013-06-20T00:41:00.004-04:002023-08-26T21:41:34.253-04:0010 Lies About Attachment Parenting
In his church-based Parenting Program called "Preparation for Parenthood" and his secular book "On Becoming Babywise," author Gary Ezzo portrays his Infant Management System as a superior parenting method resulting in content, well-behaved children and confident, well-rested happy parents.
To make his point, he contrasts his method against Attachment-Style Parenting, portraying itsstubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-89935129978332762462013-05-22T15:01:00.001-04:002020-05-27T13:02:08.718-04:00In His ImageEveryone knows that, generally speaking, women are far more nurturing than men when it comes to babies. Moms will run to tend to crying babies, while men are content to leave them alone and let them settle themselves.
Thanks to new fMRI technology [functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging], we are finally able to see that this is not an "emotional weakness" as Gary Ezzo infers in stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-52332387491291112692013-02-21T15:48:00.000-05:002019-11-24T22:09:19.980-05:00The Ezzospeak Dictionary
Upon reading the book "On Becoming Babywise" you see that author Gary Ezzo portrays his program as a reasonable voice in the often contradictory recommendations of parenting.
Upon closer examination, however, we see that he often applies different meanings to words and phrases than that which is generally accepted. This is very misleading for those discussing what the book stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-41397315833376298602012-11-11T21:40:00.003-05:002018-08-20T08:02:34.542-04:00Crying: "a LATE sign of hunger"
Gary Ezzo's mistakenly believes that Attachment Parenting involves feeding their babies every time they cry. He claims they are trying to "block" crying (as if crying is a good thing, and soothing a baby is a bad thing to do).
Wrong. Attachment Parents do not feed their babies every time they cry. They understand what the AAP's stance on crying actually means.
What exactly does thestubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-53694696061570675542012-02-26T22:18:00.001-05:002017-02-01T21:19:16.318-05:00How we KNOW that "Preparation for Parenting" is not "God's Way": The Scriptures Ezzo didn't use.
Overview:
"Preparation for Parenting: Bringing God's Order To Your Baby's Day And Restful Sleep To Your Baby's Night."
This is the title of a church-based parenting program geared to expectant parents. The classes include a taped message and a homework book titled, "A Study in the Philosophy, Physiology, and Practice of Nurturing a Newborn." This "Prep Course" as it has stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-71888363609291204282012-02-26T21:55:00.001-05:002018-09-28T11:30:55.881-04:00My Breasts Are A "Prop"?
In his book On Becoming Babywise, Gary Ezzo changes the meaning of a number of words to suit his purposes, in order to make his sleep-training program appear to be "natural" and "loving" and sensible. Phrases and words such as "training," "flexible schedule" and "parental guidance on new meanings in this twisted "Infant Management System." In this post we will stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-55316870020106312512012-02-09T11:59:00.001-05:002013-05-13T21:52:57.212-04:00Granny Analogy
Happy Acres Home for the Aged
Welcome to your new home!
The follow is a list of our expectations for your elderly loved one.
Elderly people are no longer growing, so they don't need to be fed as often as youngsters and we feel two meals a day is sufficient. Since regularity is key to preventing Geriatric Metabolic Chaos, feeding times will be regular, but we are very flexiblestubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-1682962327602199632011-03-21T22:11:00.000-04:002015-01-29T22:10:14.877-05:00My FriendMy Friend
by
Saralaine Millet
Three years ago my friend could neither speak nor walk nor even feed herself.
Some said her condition was helpless. I stood by her – ready to comfort and encourage.
Little by little she came to trust me - to believe that her needs would always be met,
that I loved her just for herself.
Little by little she began to find that she could help herself.
She took stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-64918096003056001722010-10-02T21:03:00.004-04:002015-01-22T16:39:03.967-05:00The NewcomerThe last time a new little fellow joined our family, he arrived right on schedule, after an exhausting but exhiliarating 12 hours.
It was the same adjustment: We didn't understand each other. We weren't sure what he wanted; he couldn't understand our words. He didn't always want to sleep when I thought he should. He didn't eat at the same times as we like to eat - or the same food.
How wouldstubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-9078555467084565612010-07-09T22:05:00.012-04:002015-01-22T16:42:35.872-05:00How BABY LIES Hurt BabiesThe Babywise book recommends the biological opposite of a mother's natural hormone-driven response. Women in general are more "touchy-feely" than men and seek close emotional attachments with others. Mothers also have hormonal reasons for seeking emotional attachments, especially with their babies.
1.Ezzo puts limitations on the relationships in the hope of raising a moral stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-64939028449932021572010-07-09T21:48:00.009-04:002013-08-01T21:12:25.877-04:00How BABY LIES Hurt Mommies
When the new Mommy isn't sure what to do, she turns to the book for answers to her questions. After all, it's written by an expert, or so she presumes. The book promises her that she can prevent all the problems others have if she follows the rules, so Mommy does exactly what the book says. She's glad it's all spelled out so clearly! She writes the schedule down, and follows it stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-36992876519336178702010-04-12T19:53:00.003-04:002019-09-24T12:16:20.875-04:00Growing Husbands God's Way~ A Parody ~
A close bond between a mother and her child is essential. Not only does a mother's love and affection ensure that she maintains a strong desire to care for her baby, it sets the stage for all other relationships throughout the child's life.
You may be familiar with the popular poem "Children Learn What They Live" by Dorothy Law Nolte, PhD , part of which reads,
If stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-66499232408716497732010-04-10T22:00:00.002-04:002018-10-02T17:41:22.583-04:00The Truth About Child Centred ParentingIt's strange that Gary Ezzo criticizes child - centred parenting as being a dangerous thing for marriage.
Doesn't parenting by definition centre around a child?
Certainly nobody wants to spoil a child by giving them everything they want, but we must remember his book Babywise is about traing newborn infants, who clearly DO require a lot of time and energy for the first while.
With a stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-54310878897635140542010-04-10T21:12:00.000-04:002018-11-28T17:50:16.745-05:00 The Center Point Between AP and Hyperscheduling
Of the many lies in this book, today's blog entry takes a deeper look at perhaps the biggest, most misleading lie of all: that author Gary Ezzo offers a nice, healthy balance between two parenting extremes:
Attachment Parenting vs. Hyperscheduling
In his book, the author describes Attachment Parenting as
- exhausting for the mother,
&stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-1163778001108400422010-04-10T20:29:00.003-04:002014-12-23T23:21:55.782-05:00Chapter 4 Baby Lies (Lies #15 - #22)Chapter 4 – Facts on Feeding
In this chapter, Ezzo explains the way he sees different parenting philosophies - namely Attachment Parenting vs. his own Parent-Directed Feeding Method- affect the success of breastfeeding.
Lie #15; Page 63, Babywise
"Quite possibly the decision to quit breastfeeding actually is a disturbing necessity for distraught and fatigued moms unable to cope with endless stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-83287322512184412332010-04-10T20:23:00.000-04:002014-12-23T23:20:17.007-05:00Chapter 3 Baby Lies - 2 more liesChapter 3 – Babies and Sleep
Lie #13 a, b, c; Page 44
These PDF babies are characterized by contentment, healthy growth, and optimal alertness.
Presumably this is statement makes a comparison to non-PDF babies.
a)Contentment? If you subtract all the time the baby cries from the equation, then yes, the rest of the time the baby would presumably be content. Since Ezzo says it is normal to cry at stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-24024053328425054662010-04-10T19:53:00.000-04:002014-12-23T23:18:42.413-05:00Chapter 2 Baby Lies - 8 more lies.Chapter Two – Feeding Philosophies
Lie #4; Page 30
Prior to this century… mothers nursed babies when they were hungry, having pre-established guidelines for babies’ hunger patterns.
These “pre-established guidelines for babies hunger patterns” are not explained. As human beings, all babies are different. How does one pre-establish a new person’s hunger patterns?
Lie #5; Page 31
The stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-74399422655699681802010-04-10T19:37:00.001-04:002018-10-02T21:05:20.611-04:00Chapter 1 the first 3 LiesA list of some of the many lies in the book Babywise
Chapter 1 – Your Baby Needs a Family
In the first chapter, Gary Ezzo establishes his foundational belief, namely that
A healthy husband-wife relationship is essential to the emotional health of children in the home. When there is harmony in the marriage, there is an infused stability within the family. (Page 20)
Marriage, he says, “stubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3750720998438958833.post-27648876345643858822010-04-05T21:20:00.004-04:002018-05-16T13:50:19.745-04:00Sleep Training the Natural Way?“On Becoming Babywise” by Gary Ezzo is an extremely popular sleep-training book. It is subtitled
“Learn how over 500,000 babies were trained to sleep through the night the natural way”.
After reading the 1998 version of this book, I considered that the subtitle begs two important questions:
1. Is the Babywise baby really "trained to sleep"?
2. Is this method really the "natural way"?
PART Istubberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11996708229224343016noreply@blogger.com11